A Solo Journey

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, 
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might 
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

When I remember who I am, I read the prophet book, Gibran Khalil Gibran with the song, https://m.soundcloud.com/haydarhamid/dnlywl3n7wvy

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How Can You Master English From A To Z Without Paying A Penny!

If you want to study abroad rocketing your future, you have to learn English. Diseases are terrifying, unexpected, yet they can be treated and cured if you are acquainted with its disorders. English is the language of science and research. We are locked up into the same room, insulars, parochial, digest only what we receive. What changes this loathsome condition is ENGLISH. Politics, history, education, health, better places to live in, second opportunities, etc rely on English and better comprehension.

“People may say mastering English is out of reach as it requires bulging our bank accounts in the first place. You would never learn English, unless you mingle with native English speakers and only native English speakers. I was born and raised in Egypt and willing to spend the rest of my life there. Therefore, it is utterly ridiculous to waste time on learning. I would never learn, I am a nonentity!” All these are mere hallucinations and superstitions. We are living in the third millennium where the internet is easily accessible to everyone. You only need your persistence and determination to outstrip.

Once upon a time, in 2011, there was an Egyptian girl, a fresh graduate, a hopeful, but the atmosphere shattered her dreams. Wherever she went, predestination forced her to return empty handed. There were that moments of crying, despair, and even envy. After four years of going back and forth, she made up her mind and decided to break the mold. She set off her new solo journey of learning and immersion. Now, that mature woman is running her own blog, ironically, that blog is in English, not in her mother tongue. Besides that, she is about to move up her ladder and have a glittering career.

Success and failure are two sides of the same coin. Who never savoured failure, would never appreciate the taste of success. Hopefully, I can inspire even one person to better his/her life someday. Let me tell you what I have done to learn English in detail.

  • First and foremost, you have to study and write down whatever you read, others’ hints, and tips. English consists of grammar and vocabularies, so dismissing any of them may ruin the entire journey.
  • Follow Michael Youssef’s plan as he is my role model and thousands as well.
  • Surround yourself with English as much as possible, download BBC prodcast, watch documentaries and turn on CC.
  • Download Hellotalk, thus you can make friends from all over the world to chat with them, correcting each other’s posts, and grammatical mistakes.
  • There is another useful application which is Lingebe. Lingebe is a good option for those who prefer anonymity because it is only for calls.
  • Currently, my only pastime is to read through anybooks application, but it is suitable for advanced-upper intermediate users.

Patience is the key to get to your desirable destination, otherwise the vehicle would jerk then flip! It took me three years to get where I am today. It may be longer or shorter according to the person and their utmost effort. A couple of years to enlighten the other decades on earth.

  • Useful applications: Hellotalk, Quora, Reverso, Lingebe, Oxford dictionary, Anybooks, BBC news, BBC prodcast, The Guardian.
  • Some useful channels on YouTube: Real Stories, Al-Jazeera English, TEDx, DW, 60 Minutes, CBS news, etcetera.

Beginners’ plan, https://drive.google.com/drive/mobile/folders/0BzXUdSWn9JveTVd4Z0RwWFc3UWc?usp=drive_open

A good plan for intermediate level, https://drive.google.com/drive/mobile/folders/0BzXUdSWn9JveVTFpZllQMkttS3M

Who prepare for IELTS, https://drive.google.com/folderview?id=0ByyZWo08OOcUbG1ubUJvWG9YZUE

Life is about evolution. Don’t stay put!

Marriage What Makes Our Lives, As Women, Uneventful!

Definitions belong only to the definer, not the defined.

She may be called a spinster in the Middle East, or a leftover in the Far East which elucidates how sketchy her self image is without a man. Ironically, if a man does not get married, it is because he is not willing to do so. On the other hand, if a woman does not get married, this means she is a relic, a surplus, etc!

every society accumulated layer upon layer of cultural ideas and norms that have little to do with biology. Societies associate a host of attributes with masculinity and femininity that, for the most part, lack a firm biological basis!

In a larger space, for example in North Korea, the sexes become segregated. At mealtime, the women huddle together over a low wooden table near the kitchen, eating cornmeal, which was cheaper and less nutritious than rice, the preferred staple of North Koreans. The father and son eat rice at their own table.

At the time, girls are not supposed to ride bicycles. There is a social stigma. People think it unsightly and sexually suggestive, and periodically the Workers’ Party have issued formal edicts, making it technically illegal.Therefore, if a girl rode a bicycle, men would try to pass her on their bicycles, cursing her for her audacity.
“You’re going to tear your cunt,” they would scream at her. Ironically, North Korea is not a religious country, but it is as abhorrent as the Arab world.

Ostensibly, objectification turns us, as women, into a burden which prompts the society to get rid of even if the ring will turn into handcuffs!

Without marriage, the rhythm of your life will get cacophonous. However, marriage is a contract which is based on mutual consent between a man and a woman to fulfil their sexual needs and support each other. There are neither slaves nor masters. It is an equation of caretaker with woman’s resourcefulness.

The picture shows what was prohibited for women in the medieval history because of culture and only culture! We still have miles of illumination to go before we sleep.

An Outcast

“These displaced persons are mostly unwanted where they fled from; unwanted where they are, in refugee camps; and unwanted where they want to go.”

“With the exception of those born in refugee camps, every refugee used to have a life. It doesn’t matter whether you were a physician in Bosnia or a goat herder in the Congo: what matters is that a thousand little anchors once moored you to the world. Becoming a refugee means watching as those anchors are severed, one by one, until at last you’re floating outside of society, an untethered phantom in need of a new life.”

I think this book shows only a sample of refugees and immigrants and how they are living where they are now. As someone who was born and raised in Egypt willing to live in a better place someday; the scene does not sound beautiful, but my humanistic instinct is prompting me to flee at least to keep it safe.

You may want to check out this too The Displaced.

5 Minutes For The Next 50 Years Of Your Life, Oprah Winfrey.

All of you living here, have the potential for enormous success. There is a price comes with that. First and foremost, knowing who you are. Knowing who you are!

Being able to answer this question: “Who am I? And what do I want?”

I am asking the bigger question of “Who am I”. Who am I really?! And what do I want?

I do not just want to just be successful in the world.

I do not want to just make a mark or have a legacy

The answer to that question, for me, is: I want to fulfil the highest, truest expression of myself as a human being.

You must have some kind of vision for your life. Even if you do not know the plan, you have to have a direction in which you choose to go.

You want to be in the driver’s seat of your own life because if you are not, life will drive you!

Knowing who you really are in this space and time that we embody. You must find a way to serve.

“NOT EVERYBODY CAN BE FAMOUS, BUT EVERYBODY CAN BE GREAT, BECAUSE GREATNESS IS DETERMINED BY SERVICE.”

Now we live in a world where everybody wants to be famous, and where we admire people for just being famous!

We think being known bring us value. The truth is all of that will fade in time. In three years, you will not be able to name the housewives of Atlanta. The real truth is that service and significance!

Service and the significance that you bring to your service is that which is lasting. When you shift the paradigm of whatever it is, you choose to do to service, and you bring significance to that. Success will, I promise you, follow you. Service and significance equal success.

Here is the key: learn from every mistake, because every experience, encounter, and particularly, your mistakes are there to teach you and force you into being more of who you are. And then, figure out what is the next right move. What is your true calling? What is your dharma? What is your purpose?

All of you living here, have the potential for enormous success. There is a price comes with that.

People do not always like you, and they are not happy for you. And if you surround yourself with people who are not accustomed to your success, they become fearful. They become scared. Because you are reflecting back something to them that they do not recognize.

People who want the best for you, want you to be your best. So, my greatest advice to you is to surround yourself with people who are going to fill your cup until your cup runeth over. And what I know for sure is that the biggest choices begin and end with you!

Your internal big question: who I want to be in the world? Be excellent! People notice! Let excellence be your brand. Everybody talks about building a brand. I never even knew what it was. When people say “You are a brand”. I would say “No. I am just Oprah”. What I recognize now is that my choice is in every way. In every example, in every experience, to do the right thing. And the excellent thing is what has created the brand.

Experience what counts, otherwise is a figment of your imagination, as nothing precious will fall into your lap!

Experiences Vs DNA

Finally I finished reading “DNA is not destiny” book, and indeed it was a page turner one. Many times, I echoed that question whether experiences can change our traits, or even defeat our genes or not. I never got the answer until I read that informative book!

If we trace our origins, we will find out that all human beings belong to one forefather “Adam”. However, we have different outlooks, productivity, complexions, languages, races, even different continents to live in. This is due to the environment and its circumstances. As we, human beings, have created that loathsome word “RACES”. Therefore, we incline to categorise others’ education, crime rates, IQ, etc, based on it.

Black people, reportedly, do not get tertiary education. Arabs are living in that stagnant pond of retardation because of their tribal genes. So, they can neither deal with technology nor the contemporary era. Africans have low IQ. White students do much better than other races in schools. All these examples show how influential the environment is. Lock up people in the same room with typical circumstances, then we can rely only on genes.

I remembered Maslow’s hierarchy theory and the former president “Barack Obama”. He would not have been Mr. President, unless he had left his African country. Firstly, he fulfilled his basic needs living in a dreamlike place such as the United States of America. Thus, he was able to better his life pursuing his education at one of the most prestigious universities in the world. Rising up the ladder requires full bellies and safety, otherwise, we would be mere predators devoid of intellect.

I myself would never be the same person without going through some abhorrent situations. We are infants, toddlers, teenagers, adults, elderlies, with no differences, only the exposure to different boundaries what makes us different inwardly and outwardly. Reading that book is definitely a must!

Big Homes Lead to Anti-Social Behavior in Young People

Technology is within our hands, but it takes our lives backwards. Information has become more accessible. However, it builds inescapable fence and unbearable void. We are psychopaths vainly trying to deal with that technology. Those devices were meant to serve my life, not to rip it apart!

Creator Villa

In this article I will say something that flies in the face of conventional wisdom. But on this issue experience and observation have made my conviction strong. Here let me reiterate the title of this thread: living in a big house tends to engender anti-social behavior.

The American dream traditionally defined consists of living in a big house, driving a nice car, and having a nuclear family with approximately two kids. While each of these elements is a worthy achievement, I want to push back against the idea that bigger is always better when it comes to the house in which you live.

There are certain advantages to living in a bigger house. Big houses are physically attractive. Big houses feature greater space in-between other houses on the same block. Big houses comes with the luxury of hosting karaoke night any day of the week and spare the misery of…

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