Some Anecdotes About Women I Have Met Recently!

  

 No human being can be more human than another human being. I liberate you from my ignorance! 

     I am so grateful for having such a job which allows me to mingle with those wonderful women. Those women have been deprived of education and that air of independence and freedom I currently enjoy. These feelings did not happen overnight as I had to pay upfront and stand lonely during the last seven years. I have tribal roots, but I usually have that feeling of being rootless. Maybe it stems from being single so far. Girls who do not get married at age 25 considered leftovers and spinsters, but people show me respect and courtesy while I will be turning 30 after three months. I have discovered that we convey the message to others about the methodology of decently treating or mistreating us as WOMEN. We are the preys and the perpetrators.

     Where I live, women care much about gold, banquets, dowry, and trousseau! we have to buy such and such not to make others belittling us. we should buy twenty bed sheets, ten quilts, four kitchen gadgets, two kids’ rooms even before consummation, mats, spacious flats, etc even if you are insolvent since you have to do so!. Egyptians usually say ” الجواز ستر” which means marriage is a protection for women, but those are mere restraints.


   Marriage is a bundle of clemency, love, unwavering support, and equality. It is not an arena to wrestle with others or to show off while you are paraplegic and suffocated with debts and ignorance. Recently. I get used to witnessing such situations and gladly I have met Mona. Mona is a divorced woman and a mother of three-year old child. She can read and write but she is living on the dole for divorced women and it is pittance unfortunately! Mona and I had many conversations together as we are at the same age but with different priorities and standpoints. She has experienced bitterness as he ex-husband was thrusting her daily for months. Now, she is living with her parents and siblings serving them without any attention to her needs nor pain.

If I did not know Islam well, I would curse my religion! But Islam came down to eradicate the customs and traditions of Arabs. We were objectified as we were goods and chattels inherited to anyone. I think our bygone is insurmountable as those traditions defiantly and forcefully encase our religion and deliberately obliterate it! In Islam the most sinful things are taking orphans’ rights and wrongly smearing women’s reputations. I have also met Fatima with her broken fist as her father kept beating her until she gave him money. Should we bear any filial love towards our parents without receiving their paternal compassion in the first place?? Should I feel loony and offbeat as I do not think much of being married or having a child? I am not an ostrich inclining to bury myself under any circumstances. My relationship with human beings is neither trustworthy nor sustainable. I enjoy being woman from the upper with those tribal roots as they are gurus to stand up against such superfluous superficiality.

Life is lived only once. but experiences are perennial. We are mere portable memories and we voluntarily choose whether to discard or to carry all the way. We are blessed to be WOMEN as we are equals only walk side by side and go hand in hand. Thankfully, my goes have come in handy and I finally feel success and contentment.

That picture is taken from another fellow, so excuse me my friend 🌻

Ali Shariati

Similar to the prophets, the enlightened souls also neither belongs to the community or scientists nor to the camp of unaware and stagnant masses. They are aware and responsible individuals whose most important objective and responsibility is to bestow the great God-given gift of “self- awareness” (khod-agahi) to the general public. Only self-awareness transforms static and corrupt masses into a dynamic and creative cantor, which fosters great genius and gives rise to great leaps, which in turn become the springboard for the emergence of civilization, culture and great heroes. For ruining a fact, do not attack it, defend it badly!

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I against my brother. I and my brother against my cousin. I, my brother, and my cousin against the world (Arab Proverb)

Spot-on my friend! We should dispose of hatred and tribalism as human beings and as Arabs. We are meant to be different.

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Arab warriors fighting against the world
Bedouins in Battle.

The sequence in the title comes from a famous Bedouin proverb. The Bedouin were militarized Arab nomads who inhabited the deserts of Jordan, Syria, Iraq, and Saudi Arabia prior to the development and sedentarization of the early 20th century. The proverb captured how human beings have conducted themselves for the great majority of recorded history. Human beings are tribal, and the basic unit of the tribe is the immediate family. Beyond the immediate family, people form loyalty ties based on kinship. However, there is a problem with this system. First of all, it implies people are always in conflict with others. And second, it implies that every human being will have an enemy in the great majority of people on earth. Indian-American novelist and author of The Sweetness of Tears, Nafisa Haji, captures some of this tension.

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Read On My Behalf Please!

A lot of things we can do through this crazy time. Please read to make that world bearable. Covid19 is a lesson, and history is full of many lessons, but we never heed intentionally or unintentionally! Those are 100 books, so read and fathom well.

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Savour Everything

I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.

Frida Kahlo

 

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Discern Well My Fellows!

Grief is the most peculiar thing; we’re so helpless in the face of it. It’s like a window that will simply open of its own accord. The room grows cold, and we can do nothing but shiver. But it opens a little less each time, and a little less; and one day we wonder what has become of it.
― Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha.

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There Is No Paradise on Earth

The point of this language of “intention” and “personal responsibility” is broad exoneration. Mistakes were made. Bodies were broken. People were enslaved. We meant well. We tried our best. “Good intention” is a hall pass through history, a sleeping pill that ensures the Dream.
Ta-Nehisi Coates

George Floyd astounds me as I thought Khaled Saeed; the Egyptian George would never be seen in the greatest nation as it is only ours. Thrusting and Smacking human beings happen only to Arabs where order is woven in the tapestry of life. I know well that there is no paradise on earth, but at least your racism is not blind and somehow even-handed! Hopefully, your cries and revolution will not be attempted and light will be awaiting for you at the end of the tunnel to breathe freely. Life is in pairs, so every beginning has an end; sometimes it blossoms, and sometimes calamity is only a spur to evolve!

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Even Covid19 Has Pros And Cons.

Develop in your heart the feeling of love for your people and let it be the source of kindliness and blessing to them. Do not behave with them like a barbarian, and do not appropriate to yourself that which belongs to them. Remember that the citizens of the state are of two categories. They are either your brethren in religion or your brethren in kind. They are subject to infirmities and liable to commit mistakes.Imam Ali

Look how inert we are today because of covid19. It is a lesson to value everything and to reshuffle our priorities. Instead of wars, missiles, bombs, factions, brutality, etc, we are in a battle with a domineering and an imponderable organism which will overturn a lot of things after its disappearance. Consternation has become our company walking side by side when we go out or talk to people and this is a great lesson to value reassurance.

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As an Arab woman who belongs to a bigoted family and tribal roots, I know well the meaning of paralysis, the bitterness of stillness for more than seven years, but to witness it globally is unexpected. Covid19 is much better than human beings as it is even-handed inflicting princes, ministers, inmates, and vagabonds. Covid19 is blind catapulting whites, blacks, monotheists, and atheists!Ironically, I am blossoming mentally and emotionally because I am making some progress at work. Scourges were spurs to forge ahead with my plans, The pandemic will be a spur too to redress our mistakes as human beings.

we should do away with all forms we inherited from the past which clamp themselves like chains around our wrists, feet, spirit, thoughts, will and vision.

I am a daughter of an illiterate woman who devoted herself to raise me and my siblings to become lawyers, a doctor, and a banker. I thank that woman for giving me what she was deprived of. I and my sister would face the same destiny of Nujood Ali. In the upper of Egypt, concubinage is still happening in the name of traditions and customs.

Thankfully, my mother was unintentionally a reformer who wanted to moved forward without toppling down others’ pedestals or statues until we safely passed by. Within a few days my mother will turn 51 years old and I have promised her to travel together but covid19 has become the master. It was a long break and I invested it in work and reading some books about women, misogyny, religions, and I found out a great book “Fatima is Fatima, Ali Shariati” and here are some mesmerising quotes from the book,

“They try to explain social traditions, which have come into being through habit, in religious terms. Ancient customs cannot be retained by the force of religion for if this were so, it would mean that religion is mortal. When we equate religion and social traditions, we make Islam the guardian of declining forms of life and society. We mistake cultural and historical phenomena with inherited, superstitious beliefs. Time comes along, and as it moves in haste, it changes habits, forms of life, social relationships, indigenous, historical phenomena and ancient, cultural signs. We mistakenly believe the Islamic religion to be these social traditions. Aren’t these great errors being committed today? Aren’t we seeing them with our own eves?”

“My father chose my name, and my last name was chosen by my ancestors. That’s enough, I myself choose my way.”

I apologise for the delay in answering your messages and emails as I was super busy. It was a long break, so I do not know if you still remember me or still interested in reading my blog!

Stay safe and blessed!

This Is For India

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So the history of the modern state can also be read as the history of race, bringing together the stories of two kinds of victims of European political modernity: the internal victims of state building and the external victims of imperial expansion. Hannah Arendt noted this in her monumental study on the Holocaust, which stands apart for one reason: rather than talk about the uniqueness of the Holocaust, Arendt sited it in the imperial history of genocide. The history she sketched was that of European settlers killing off native populations. Arendt understood the history of imperialism through the workings of racism and bureaucracy, institutions forged in the course of European expansion into the non-European world: “Of the two main political devices of imperialist rule, race was discovered in South Africa, and bureaucracy in Algeria, Egypt and India.” Hannah Arendt’s blind spot was the New World. Both racism and genocide had occurred in the American colonies earlier than in South Africa. The near decimation of Native Americans through a combination of slaughter, disease, and dislocation was, after all, the first recorded genocide in modern history.

Those are Mahmood Mamdani’s words. My prayers and supplications for India and all the oppressed!

London Mosque And Germany

At the beginning I thought Arabs and especially Egyptians were the only bigoted and reactionaries. Christians celebrate their feast among weapons and armoured vehicles allegedly to protect them! Protect them from whom? Another monotheist? Strange!

O people, we created you all from a male and female
And made you into different communities and different tribes
So that you should come to know one another
Acknowledging that the most noble among you
Is the one most aware of God

Allah wants us to be different to coexist. I believe that our dilemma as Arabs is homogeneity. We look the same, have only one religion, and only one denomination “Sunni”. I am longing for that melting pot to know one another as vicegerents instilling peace not the opposite.

Unfortunately, I was mistaken as it is not only our issue. New Zealand mosque shooting was a proof. Today’s news about London mosque and Germany was another proof of our animalistic instinct and superficiality. Why do we want to despoil humanity of this planet? What do you gain from stabbing people while they are worshipping Allah? We, monotheists, pray to soothe our pain as everyone is treading in their path with its ups and downs. To be able to be in others’ shoes, we should pray, fast, give alms, etc!

A couple of days ago, I got furious because someone posted a moment describing the piety of her friend. Her friend detached herself away from any technology. She eats only rice and bread to value blessings well. She does not mingle with men as it is against her creed. I was amazed because Portraying religions and faith in such a way of solitude and austerity is totally wrong! We are not meant to exist in this world to avoid it or cocoon ourselves. We are here to coexist as vicegerents. There is repentance to tell us how merciful Allah is as he always accepts us. We should always consider the day of reckoning by working hard for it not by flogging ourselves.

Don’t choose to be an ultra because someday you will give up on this in an indelible way. Religions exist to dispense justice, peace, and welfare. Please contribute to this and never stand still concocting superficial excuses regarding your faith.

At the end I abhor politics, its endless covetousness, and its media outlets. The condition of our humanity is full-blown and dreary!

From A Caterpillar To A Butterfly!

   After a couple of hours I will turn 29 years old, but I consider myself  a toddler who is still stumbling. Currently, I need nothing but Allah’s boon to keep getting up at 4 am to study for GMAT on my own. I always say that I am a free spirit with some bruises and gashes. A wanderer who gets throbbed and thrusted by life many times. A woman who has everything simple except her goals in this world. A woman who deep down believes in her self-aggrandisement after savouring life’s bitterness.

    Order is not woven in the tapestry of life. DNA is fallacy. Puritanism is the other side of illiteracy. Misogyny shows well that you are in a state of stupor. Your chauvinism has turned that place into a dystopian society.

   It is my birthday and my first-year blogging as well. I have been writing for a year. This blog helped me vent what I felt then. It was a good means instead of crying and cursing everything around. You do not know how grateful I am for your unexpected support. Finally, I am working on my last goal to better my life then I will definitely be able to help. That butterfly is still dwelling into her cocoon but out of preparation not docility. You have to duck and digest those feelings of failure and loss well. They are the spurs to blossom.

Happy New Year and may Allah shower your lives with happiness, contentment, and prosperity! My apologies for the delay in replying but I am super busy even I do not get enough sleep. Excuse me please!